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Spread EagleSex Position
Open the legs wide and the distance between you closes.
The spread eagle sex position settles the receiving partner face up, legs apart as wide as feels good, with the giving partner kneeling in the gap. Knees can bend and fall out to the sides, or the legs can rise and stay wide in the air. Both ways, the thighs are no longer an obstacle.
Simple idea? Mostly. The one thing worth learning is that width and height are two different dials. Wide and low gives an open, comfortable version you can linger in, while wide and high goes deeper and asks considerably more of the inner thighs. Set the width first. Height comes after.
What The Spread EagleSex Position Is
Picture the receiving partner reclining, a firm pillow ideally tucked beneath the pelvis, knees allowed to sink open to each side. Kneeling upright in that opening, the giving partner inches closer so that the backs of their partner's thighs drape over their own. That is the basic spread eagle position. Legs can then stay low and out, or lift and remain apart.
A few neighbors look similar, so here is how to tell them apart. The mating press tucks the knees inward instead of outward. The banana split raises one leg and sends the other sideways, lopsided where this one is symmetrical. And the anvil props both straight legs on the shoulders, trading away the very width this position runs on.
It also turns up under the label legs open sex position, or just the eagle. Names wander. Mechanics do not.
Why WidthChanges The Reach
In ordinary missionary, the thighs sit between the two pelvises and hold them a set distance apart. Spread those thighs and the buffer is gone. As the hips open, the pelvis also rolls forward slightly, so the giving partner can get closer and reach further with no extra effort from anyone.
Here is the underrated part. Kneeling tall between wide legs frees the giving partner's hands, leaving room to hold a thigh, steady a hip or add clitoral stimulation by hand, and that last option often counts for more than any angle does. The reasons are laid out in our female orgasm guide.
Height works as its own control. Raise the legs while keeping them apart and the pelvis tips further back, stacking depth on top of closeness. That lifted form is the eagle proper. It is also where the inner thighs and hamstrings begin to pay.
Wide first, then how high?
Move the slider through width, then height. More width closes the gap. More height adds depth and taxes the inner thighs.
How To ActuallyDo It
- 1
Set a cushion under the tailbone
Before the legs move at all, something firm beneath the pelvis tips it forward, so the width you add later is not doing every job by itself.
- 2
Let the knees fall open on their own
The receiving partner simply lets both knees sink sideways under their own weight. Wherever they come to rest without effort is the working width for tonight.
- 3
Kneel in until the thighs touch
Kneeling tall, the giving partner shuffles forward until the backs of the receiving partner's legs lie across their lap. That contact holds the width steady.
- 4
Lift the legs only if you want depth
Raising them, still apart, tilts the pelvis further. Climb in stages. The receiving partner says when to stop.
- 5
Put the free hands to work
Kneeling upright means both of the giving partner's hands are available. One can cradle an inner thigh while the other keeps busy up front.
Inner ThighsAnd Hip Flexors
Hips are what need looking after, in particular the inner thighs and the hip flexors across the front of the joint. Both lengthen as the legs open. Both complain sooner once the legs go up. The rule fits in a breath: stop at the first pull, not the second.
Support beats flexibility. Rest the backs of the legs on the giving partner's thighs, forearms or hands rather than holding them open by muscle. Padding beneath the pelvis does part of the opening for you, and a wedge pillow keeps its shape far better than an ordinary bed pillow, which tends to go flat partway through.
Because the giving partner kneels upright throughout, a soft mattress or folded blanket is a small gift to the knees. That closer approach can make entry feel abrupt, too. Ease in, and keep lube handy.
VersionsWorth Trying
Feet planted wide on the mattress with knees bent gives the receiving partner leverage to tilt and push back. It takes the least effort of any version, and it is a good place to find out how much width actually feels right.
Alternatively, the legs can be held apart by the giving partner, hands behind the knees. All the muscle work leaves the inner thighs. So does control of the width, which now sits with the wrong person, and that means the receiving partner needs to say precisely where to stop.
The full eagle lifts the legs high and wide while one partner or the other holds the ankles. Deepest version, shortest comfortable one. Think of it as a few intense minutes, not somewhere to move in.
Another option puts the receiving partner's hips right at the rim of the mattress with the giving partner on their feet beside it. Standing adds reach and rescues the knees. It also overlaps with the butterfly, where matching the surface height decides everything.
The versions, drawn
Feet planted wide
Knees bent and feet flat give the receiving partner leverage to tilt and push back. The easiest way to learn the right width.
The full eagle
Legs high and wide with the ankles held. The deepest version, and the shortest comfortable one.
Hips at the mattress edge
Hips at the edge, giving partner standing. More reach, no knees involved, and the height of the bed decides everything.
What is your spread eagle tonight?
Tap the mood.
WhoIt Is Best For
Couples who want more closeness and reach than missionary offers, without folding anybody in half, will like this one. So will anyone who wants hands involved, along with receiving partners who have reasonably open hips and enjoy feeling open instead of pinned down.
Tight inner thighs, or a groin strain that is still healing? Then leave the raised version out altogether on those nights, because the low version still works fine. When the stretch is okay but the giving partner's knees are not, a switch to standing beside the mattress fixes it. Agree on a comfortable width before anyone moves a leg. A single sentence of communication beforehand is cheaper than a pulled muscle.
What GoesWrong
Prying the knees wider by hand
Forcing the knees further apart than gravity takes them loads the inner thighs quickly. If someone else has to hold the width open, the hips never agreed to it.
Skipping the cushion and lifting the legs to compensate
With nothing under the pelvis, people hoist the legs higher to chase the angle. A cushion delivers that tilt for free and lets the thighs stay relaxed.
Kneeling too far back
Stay at arm's length and the width is wasted, while the angle gets awkward. Close in until thigh meets thigh. Then adjust the rest.
Questions PeopleAsk
What is the spread eagle sex position?
Here the receiving partner reclines with legs spread wide, either resting out to the sides or lifted and apart, and the giving partner kneels in the space that opens up. That allows closer contact and leaves plenty of room for hands.
Is the eagle sex position deeper than missionary?
It can be. Wide legs let the giving partner come closer, and lifting them while they stay apart tilts the pelvis further still. Result: the raised eagle reaches deeper than flat missionary.
How is the spread eagle position different from the mating press?
Which way the knees go. In a mating press they fold up toward the torso. In a spread eagle they open sideways, leaving the chest free and letting width do the work.
Does the eagle position require much flexibility?
Not the low version. Knees dropped wide over some padding suits a broad range of bodies. The raised version, legs high and apart, calls for loose inner thighs and hamstrings, so work toward it in stages.
How do you stop the inner thighs from cramping?
Let the legs lean on the giving partner's thighs or arms instead of holding them up, and come down from the high version before any shaking starts. A slight bend in the knees removes most of the strain.